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Robin Reinach's avatar

Love this!!!

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

I imagine with your wit and charm, you have the BEST stories

Lina's avatar
Jun 3Edited

The first time I knew Evan was for me was when we committed to an extended bit pretending to be Australian cohosts of a discovery channel show 💓 the bits have never stopped. love this take! -Lennie

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Yes! Oh my goodness, you two are such an inspiration 😍

Eric Skiff's avatar

Gaa I love this whole piece. Commitment to the bit, allowing fun and humor to be part of the exchange, approaching it all with a lightness.

The most wonderful friendships and relationships I've ever had have sprung from both short and long form committing to the bit together.

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Yes and! hehe

Carrie Bevis's avatar

Really enjoyed this piece! That first line is hilarious!

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Aww thanks Carrie! You witnessed so many of the hours I apprenticed to swiping 🙈

Allison Mendoza's avatar

This is amazing and such a playful way to look at dating, friendships.. all of it. Thank you for switching my perspective - you sold me on bitaverse! 😘

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Thank you! A vote for the bitaverse! hahaha

Margarita Lovelace's avatar

I am curious your take about people's resistance to this strategy, when they have resistance!

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Great question! For me the game's only fun if the other person wants to play. The rally only works if they hit it back. So if a stranger's genuinely not into it (and I've read the moment right, because not every moment is a bit moment), I take that as a sign to let the connection go. But with people I know well, sometimes the resistance totally is the game. It's so fun to slowly lure them in and "yes-and" their resistance until they're playing without noticing. Sometimes the whole bit is just making them roll their eyes hehe

Faith's avatar

Wow! What a great way to make friends, know yourself more, get outside of your comfort zone or maybe come across your partner. I’m gonna try this, as an INFP it’s a challenge- a fun one though. Glad you shared. 💌

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Thank you! I would love to hear how you adapt bit to work for you as as an introvert!

Leeann Renninger's avatar

Love love love this all. What’s a good word to describe the bit-richness of a moment? The bit-potentiation?

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Hahaha. Bitaverse? Bitality?

Nasreen El-Mariesh's avatar

Utterly genius!! Also fun for platonic friendships.. this is exactly the shit I get up to with my girlfriends

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Your friend ground sounds amazing!!! I feel like group bits deserve their own essay!

Nithyaa's avatar

I quite literally chortled, even reading this was a bit. <3

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Mission complete! 🤣

Mariya Leona's avatar

Imagination is a window to the soul 🥹 This is such a great philosophy on how to find your people… the ones who see a spark of my mischief and get in on the nonsense without question

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

I couldn't agree more!!! So glad to have you as one of my people 🥰

Joce Orante's avatar

"Oh, the relief. This tan, six-packed, chiseled-jawed man was allergic to fun and magic, and he had told me so in two words. I closed the app. I made myself dinner. I got my Sunday back."

loved this so much, devin. the life partner that gets to improvise a whole world with you will be such a lucky one <3

Devin Karbowicz's avatar

Joce! 😭 You are too sweet